It’s hard to believe that it’s been nearly one year from the date I first applied to Remote Year.
I also can’t believe it’s been 21 months since I last published an article on LinkedIn, but who’s counting. This gap in article posts is clearly a result of not making it a priority of mine over the past year and half. And I’m okay with that.
If there’s one thing that travelling can teach us it’s that time moves so fast, yet so slow, and never at the pace we want it to go. Travelling helps us put time into perspective among many other things like money, privilege, and priorities.
Oftentimes we set lofty goals of things we wish to accomplish. We tend to overestimate what we can accomplish in one year and under estimate what we can accomplish in two, three or ten years (quotes by Bill Gates and Tony Robbins). The point I want to make here is that by changing our language we can learn to reprioritize what is important to us rather than what is urgent. Whether it be our relationships, physical health, sleep, finances, quality of life, wellbeing, etc. changing our language can have a big effect.
Imagine answering a cold call for something that is truly at the bottom of your priority list at work, in this case it would seem reasonable to reply with “this currently isn’t a priority of mine.” The caller can flag you for a follow up in 6-12 months and you don’t have to worry about another email or voicemail over the next several weeks.
Now, imagine someone you care about asks to spend time with you and your response is “spending time with you is not a priority of mine.” It has a different affect doesn’t it? In substitution for your typical, “I can’t I’m busy” this phrase is more powerful. I’m sure you do want to see the person too, but you’re letting other items take priority which ultimately means the person is not the priority. On the flip side, whether you care for the person or not, perhaps you don’t want to see the person. If this rings true then it’s time to cut ties with that relationship or establish new boundaries.
In either scenario I find that using this language helps me clarify what choices to make based on my goals. This phrase helps me to recognize areas in my life that need a little cleaning up and prevents me from letting what’s urgent get in the way of what’s important.
So, why did I apply to Remote Year? I chose to make travel a priority. You can read about that here.